The kind witch

I had the most incredible dream (keep reading, it will turn out to not be a dream at the end). I lived in a hilly place with beautiful money. The houses were all castles with deep colors like clay. Blue clay, green, etc. It was ringed with mountains but also with giant ships. It was placid but also lush with sudden commerce around some corners. Spacious and dense. A kind of sports complex appeared abruptly, maybe two minutes’ walk from my house. In it were batting cages, pool tables, tennis courts, etc. Directly across from it were bowling alleys.

The architecture recursed and bubbled like a coral reef, like clay crystals. Birds appeared from invisible envelopes. Dogs barked from behind gates. Other dogs walked serenely in the streets, as if they remembered my last dream. Iron bars were thinking. It was all beautiful in the way that something can only be if it wasn’t as beautiful before, kind of like dating. The morning breathed because, well, of course it did. It’s what they do. I went back inside, then I went back outside, then I went inside, then back outside. Like I could start it over at will. As you can see, lots of obvious clues that it was just a dream. It had those sorts of lucid elements. That faint ebbing sense that you will wake from it, that lets you hold it all the way around.

I went back out to see it again, but of course things had already changed, not for better or worse necessarily. It had that in-your-face neutrality.

A bird sat on the spire of a fir tree and honked. In the middle distance the mute profile of a billboard. Palm trunks grew at diagonals with just a tiny amount of leaves at the tops. A cursive sign announced vacancies. Some people sat in their cars doing nothing, some alone and some in twos. Oh, I was a Mexican! I almost forgot. A chihuahua sat on an overstuffed chair beneath a concrete awning. Flowers poured from walls. Houses where I had just stood looked down from cliffs. But it was all just reality.

privilege

The reason people cite their own and others’ privilege over and over, ad infinitum, is not because it works, but because it doesn’t work. It doesn’t provide the hoped for prophylactic against the feelings of guilt we have for being alive in a world where abhorrent things occur.

But we’re desperate. We cast about. We put lemon juice in our cuts and think… at least it hurts.

bio

I think I am deciding to stay here, in this apartment. I have looked around town and I like this neighborhood. It has centrality and also proximity to the water. It is quiet.

And this apartment has great light, great air and an incredible landlord. All utilities are included and my host can’t seem to stop piling on extras. Today she offered to do my laundry for free henceforth, though I’ve been happy with the nearby laundry service so I said I wouldn’t allow it.

I think I would consider buying this apartment if I could, but I’m realizing I don’t need to. I could live here for 10 years if I wanted, paying weekly rent.

Also, there are two other apartments atop this house that are often empty, so if/when I have visitors those will probably be available. Which means I don’t need a 2-bedroom place.

merry christmas!

it’s raining this morning and it feels like Christmas.

a steady rain.  That’s an odd expression.  Right as rain is not odd. It’s one of my favorites, along with the eyeball is the straightest tool on the job.

curtains billow.  A couple days ago the air was very bad outside due to nearby wildfires.  Now the wildfire map shows much less activity in Baja, though I see there are still several fires near Los Angeles.

such rain sounds!  I haven’t heard this since I’ve been here.

I’m not lonely.  That seems to be a leading concern people have.  They think I will forget to interact with people.  But I’ve interacted with people more this month than I would have had I been in USA.  I have no fears of loneliness here.  

the only thing that has at times felt lonely is that I’m in a good mood whilst I imagine people in my former country aren’t in a good mood. Don’t tell me anything about that.  Don’t even tell me you’re not telling me. 

the other day my host said I’m looking much better than when I arrived.  To review:  (1) last summer she said I looked like a model, (2) when I arrived January 1 she said I was pale and gaunt, and indeed I had lost 10 lbs in the intervening 6 months, (3) last week she said my color was back and I look much better. She seemed to attribute the improvement to Mexico, and Mexican cuisine, which is fair.  I attribute it to food but more so to not being in a constant hurry, and not renovating a house 7 days/week.

aside from this rain my favorite sounds have been the crowds and officiating at the nearby sports venue, which has some kind of sporting activity on weekends, I assume it’s soccer.  and the boat horns.

one day when I was watching American football there was an event at the nearby sports field and I could hear chants of En-sen-nad-a, En-sen-nad-a, En-sen-nad-a.  So it must have been a contest between this town and another, rather than between local high schools.  Please don’t be like, “Ryan you have to get over there and see the sports!”  I’ve been here less than a month and there are lots of things still left to do/see.  I’m not trying to do eight things per day.  Thanks for your patience.

every minute is opposite minute

when you notice you’re having a thought, change one word in the thought to its opposite. Or reverse a “not.” Nine times out of ten, the thought will ring truer. Make it a habit, a reflex. Do it many times a day if you can, or just once a day.

then you begin to unwire yourself.

it’s a shortcut to insight that doesn’t require energy. Because it doesn’t really require any effort to change a word to its opposite. It can be done in an instant, sometimes before the expected thought has even run its course. You can start to notice what thought you’re having before you finish it, maybe before you start it.

if you’re about to think “freedom isn’t free,” try “freedom is free” instead. It might be truer, or just as true. Maybe it has to be free.

we only retain what comes with great difficulty? We only retain what comes with ease.

we become less beholden to our usual programming. We become entirely unbeholden.

holier shit

the weather here today. the breezes thickened up. the balcony is more the place to be than before.

here is this little citrus tree in the neighbor’s yard.

and here is this picture of this blog post on the balcony.

safety

There is no chance at all of this town being overrun by Americans.  The parts of town that are beautiful enough for me, perhaps very beautiful, would look ugly to most Americans.  And the industrial sections that look ugly to me, would look like hell, not even briefly tolerable, to most Americans.  So I am very safe in that regard.  

If I thought the town might be attractive to a lot of Americans, I would feel like I have to hurry up and buy a place in the next year or two.  But there is definitely no such hurry, not even remotely.  For as long as I live, I don’t think many Americans, or Canadians for that matter, would consider living here.

I suppose the only danger would be if people found out John Densmore, Ray Manzarek and Jim Morrison have a polka band here.  The place would then be overrun.  But I could shout it from the mountaintops and no one will ever believe me.  They could probably perform nightly in public for a few weeks before it became even a small problem.

Why does our head explode

Solutions start over

I don’t want to do the next thing yet

It didn’t work, but at least I gave up

revenge siestas.

when I’m foggy, I half assume I’m depressed. achievement depression. or just uh. because my body can sleep. nothing logical I’ve said is true, but I opened the windows and it got warmer I think. again.

for a little while the coffee maker seemed like it could be a good humidifier. I would say things are a little better. than what. not a fair question. I remember my dreams this year because I’m sober. I’ve had some! dreams. my alarm went off but I didn’t set it.

one thing per day. and I did something today. I still get chills but now I don’t worry.

I prefer shivers to chills for sure, but I don’t worry about these chills. not anymore.

it does what it can. I hope you’re not terrible.

holy shit

This has to be it. This evening I decided to open the windows and door and turn off the space heaters. Within a few minutes it felt warmer in here.

It might not even be that dry where I am. The weather sites say the humidity is 13% in Ensenada right now, but who knows where they take the reading. I might be close enough to the ocean that the air is actually not that dry.

This is why I can step outside, into the shade, when it’s 45 degrees out, and feel warmer than I do inside.

additional temperature experience commentary

It’s only Jan 20. My body has had some trouble adjusting to the EXTREME dryness here and how it affects my temperature sensitivity, among other things. But I’ve only been here three effing weeks! I almost lost my mind yesterday evening. It was 57 degrees out and I was freezing, no matter how much I layered up. It was driving me nuts. The complete illogic of the situation. How can it possibly feel so cold when it’s 57 degrees out. It is just not something that can be easily explained or summarized for anyone who has not experienced it. I lived 50 years in a country where it was normal to have a thermostat. A thermostat makes it so indoor temperatures never fluctuate more than a couple degrees! How strange that already seems to me from this new vantage point.

I kept taking my body temperature yesterday and the day before because I had chills. I’ve never had chills like that in my entire life except when I was sick or about to be sick. But I had no fever. A couple days ago I was sure I would be sick by today. But I’m not sick. That much is good.

Stores here do not carry humidifiers. Not even the local wal-mart or home depot. But they can be mail ordered. Anything can be mail ordered.

I think it’s possible the space heaters make me feel colder by drying out the air even more. Also possible there are multiple factors, including some sinus irritation that makes me perceive cold in the same way I would if I were sick.